Therapy for people who've spent too long adapting themselves to fit.
Therapy for grief, change and involuntary childlessness.IFS, EMDR and integrative therapy · Bridport and online across the UK
You might recognise some of these...
You are often told you’re overcomplicating things.
You find yourself saying ‘yes’ when you’d rather say ‘no’, and ‘no’ when you really mean ‘yes’.
You know your patterns. You still can’t seem to shift them.
Life hasn’t turned out the way it was supposed to.
You’re the one everyone else relies on. No one’s asking how you are.
These will show up differently for each of us. And, underneath the differences, there is often overlap: somewhere along the way, you learned to adapt yourself around other people, to sideline your needs, question your own perceptions, hold everything together. It worked, until it started costing too much.
You’re probably not short of insight. You may have followed the Instagram accounts, listened to the podcasts, read the books. You can talk about your patterns, and have plenty of ideas about why they keep showing up. And yet you still feel stuck.
What’s been missing is a relationship steady enough for that insight to become lived change.
In brief
Accredited member of the BACP, membership no. 00947550
IFS therapist trained to Level 3 with the IFS Institute
EMDR practitioner trained through Richman Training
Online across the UK
Working together
A few ways to begin
Who I work with
My work is with people whose lives haven’t followed the expected path. Grief, childlessness, unexpected change and neurodivergence are among the threads that often bring people to me. If any of that sounds familiar, you’re in the right place.
How I work
I draw on different approaches depending on what’s most helpful, although it’s the relationship between us, not the technique, that does most of the work. Internal Family Systems (IFS) sits at the centre, with EMDR alongside. There’s room for depth here, and for lightness too.
For professionals
I offer reflective, relational clinical supervision for therapists, counsellors and others in healing or holding roles. Supervision with me is shaped by Internal Family Systems (I’m trained to Level 3) alongside integrative therapeutic approaches. I hold a thoughtful, compassionate space in which to deepen your work and create a sustainable practice.
How I work
Sessions usually happen weekly or fortnightly, and can be 50 or 90 minutes long. I work mainly online with clients across the UK, with some sessions here in Bridport, Dorset.
My approach is integrative, with IFS at the centre, EMDR alongside and self-compassion as a foundation. It’s the relationship between us, not any single technique, that tends to matter most. We’ll move at your pace, always with a clear sense of what we’re working towards.
Integrative therapy
Integrative therapy brings together different ways of understanding your thoughts, feelings, body, relationships and patterns. It helps us make sense of the different parts of your experience, including those that may feel confusing or contradictory, and work towards a fuller, more connected sense of yourself.
IFS therapy
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a way of understanding the different sides of yourself, including the parts that may feel anxious, angry, fearful, critical or overwhelmed. Therapy helps you get to know these parts, understand what they are trying to do for you, and develop a more compassionate and steady relationship with them.
EMDR therapy
EMDR can help the brain process difficult or painful experiences that still feel unresolved or stuck, even years on. It can reduce the intensity of distressing memories, beliefs and body responses, so they feel more firmly in the past and have less hold over you now.
Therapy intensives
A longer session, or short series of sessions, offers focused time to work with something specific in more depth. Intensives can create space for sustained therapeutic work, with time to pause, reflect and stay with what feels most important.
Getting started
What's next?
Read about who I support
If you are wondering whether I’d be right for you, you can read about the people and experiences I most often support.
Find out how I work
Read about integrative therapy, IFS and EMDR, and different ways you could work with me.
Learn more about me
Choosing a therapist is personal. Here you can get a sense of my background, training, values and way of working.
Consider your budget and schedule
Before getting in touch, you can check my current fees and think about what session rhythm would work best for you.
Book a free intro call
Book a free, no-obligation 20-30 minute call. We can talk through what you’re looking for and see whether working together feels like the right next step.
Complete the forms
If we decide to begin, I’ll send you my therapy agreement and intake form, so we have a clear shared frame for the work.
Begin regular sessions
We’ll agree a regular time to meet and begin at a pace that feels manageable. Some people arrive with a clear focus. Others simply have a sense that something needs attention. Either is welcome.
FAQs
How do I know if therapy is right for me?
If something in your life doesn’t feel like it’s working any more, that’s usually reason enough to explore it. You don’t need a clear diagnosis, or even the right words yet.
What if I'm not in crisis, just stuck?
That’s a completely valid reason to start therapy. You don’t need to be in crisis for this work to matter – or to be helpful.
I don't feel like I fit anywhere else, is that something you can help with?
Often, yes. A lot of the people I work with have spent a long time adapting themselves to fit somewhere they didn’t quite belong. If that’s familiar, you’re in the right place.
What happens when I contact you?
We’ll arrange a free, no-obligation call to talk through what’s bringing you to therapy, and see whether working together feels right. There’s no pressure either way. You can book a call here.
Do you work online only, or in person too?
I work online with adults across the UK. If you are based in or near Bridport (West Dorset) we may be able to meet for in-person or walk and talk sessions in the local countryside.
“No need to hurry. No need to sparkle. No need to be anybody but oneself.”
Virginia Woolf, A Room of One’s Own
Get in touch
Ready to get started?
Whether you’re looking for therapy, or you’re a therapist yourself interested in supervision, consultation or integrating IFS into your practice, I’d love to hear from you.
Meet Emma
About Emma
Emma Harris is a psychotherapist, IFS therapist, EMDR practitioner and clinical supervisor. She is an accredited member of the BACP and trained to Level 3 with the IFS Institute. Her own experience of living off the expected path shapes how she works.
